Throughout history, people were judgmental regarding sex. Traditional vanilla sex practiced by heterosexual people fell into the category of “good sex.” Society considered it natural, healthy, and normal if it was consumed in marriage for the sake of reproduction. Pornography, oral sex, role-play, kinks, and sex toys were out of the question — not to mention BDSM kinks or fetish sex.
All other sexual activities that did not fit into the only acceptable category were bad. Therefore, gay and lesbian sex, sadomasochism, and fetishism were socially and morally viewed as wrong. Even if mutually consenual, all activities that fell out of the vanilla sex category were considered dirty and sinful.
Luckily, we have freed our minds over time. People with different kinks aren’t seen as freaks anymore. Society finally began to realize there’s nothing dirty about kinky and fetish sex as long as it’s voluntary.
Xenophilia and Other Kinks
For some people, vanilla sex is simply not enough. Don’t get me wrong — I don’t mind the traditional missionary, but personally, I need much more than that to get off. As a xenophiliac, I am extremely drawn to (some would even say obsessed) with science fiction and everything related to outer space. In other words — I dream about having sex with aliens.
Science fiction movies, comics, and books are a real turn-on for me. I have a huge collection of both blockbuster and not-so-popular Sci-Fi movies I rewatch on a regular basis. Alien porn videos nearly get me to the big O. I indulge in fiction, imagining myself being passionately penetrated by an alien somewhere in deep space. As a creative and imaginative person, I don’t have a hard time picturing different hot sex scenes.
You may be wondering if my partner sees my kink as a problem. Fortunately, not at all. I was lucky enough to marry a caring person who understands my fetish and obsession with extraterrestrials. What’s more, being kinky himself, he enjoys our sex routines and plays.
What Is Alien Sex Like?
However inconceivable it may seem, having sex with an alien isn’t that impossible to imagine. All you have to do is unleash your imagination and dive into the intriguing world of extraterrestrials. Xenophilia can also inspire you and your partner to create costumes for cosplay. If you are creative, you can come up with your own ideas of alien life. Personally, I like to play with different colors and designs. The more they are alien-looking, the better. The more tentacles they have, the more turned on I get.
Apart from costumes, I also have a wide array of sex toys. My personal favorite is the ovipositor. I just love it when my husband plants alien eggs inside me. Last but not least — role-playing is a must. I can’t help but get turned on when my husband’s acting like a giant extraterrestrial monster getting ready to abduct me.
I Don’t Always Have Fetish Sex
Though it may sound unbelievable, I’m not always up for kinky sex. There are times when I just want to feel loved. On those occasions, I typically crave my husband’s gentle touch and soft lovemaking by the candlelight. This usually happens when he’s out of town on business. I can’t help but miss him terribly on those days. I can hardly wait for him to come back and make love to me for hours.
Then, there are days when I feel like having vanilla sex. Alright — not that boring vanilla sex in-and-out sex. I’m quite passionate by nature, so I long for intense excitement all the time. Therefore, even when sex is a bit vanilla, it’s in no way boring. Quite the contrary — it’s sensual and romantic. It’s the time when my husband and I devote ourselves to each other completely.
Lastly, there are occasions when my xenophilia kicks in. It’s usually after watching a Sci-Fi movie or reading a book. Sometimes, a UFO investigation documentary is enough to turn me on. To be totally honest, I love it when I get aroused by my fetish. This is the time when my imagination drives me crazy. I get to play with my husband for hours.
For these occasions, we always have costumes or toys handy. Even if we don’t, I’m lucky enough to have an imaginative husband who always knows what to say and do. In such cases, we even slip in some BDSM.
Can Vanilla Sex Satisfy Those Who Have Kinks or Fetishes?
To make it clear, I have nothing bad to say about vanilla sex. It comes in perfectly on those days when you’re feeling extra emotional. Also, it can be extremely passionate if you and your partner are a bit creative in bed. If you know how to spice up your vanilla a bit, you are bound to enjoy a number of earth-shattering orgasms.
However, those who are somewhat on the kinky side and love experimenting in bed might find vanilla sex a bit dull. It’s not that they can’t get sexually aroused without their fetishes — but once you try out something different, it’s hard to go back to ordinary. Thus, if you love playing with various sex toys, the chances are that you will always opt for them rather than have traditional intercourse.
Lovers who are fond of BDSM, for example, will use every opportunity to turn their partners into a slave, tie or cuff them, even whip them (strongly or gently). For them, sex without role-playing or bonding is inconceivable.
Speaking of my xenophilia, I don’t have to watch alien porn or indulge in science fiction to get aroused. Thinking about my husband or feeling his touch and kiss on my skin can be enough to turn me on. There are even days when I crave hours-long romantic lovemaking. However, I definitely love it when my husband puts on one of his neon alien costumes with myriads of tentacles and abducts me to screw me hard and plant his alien eggs inside me. I hit the stars every single time.
Conclusion
All sorts of sex are alright as long as they are safe and consensual. It doesn’t matter whether you like it soft or hard, vanilla or spicy, as long as everyone’s happy. If you want to explore further, talk to your partner about the hidden desires you both may have. They could help you reach your own paradise.